The posture of the future allows for more practice of your “telepathic sex,” a sending of messages beyond the see/touch world. Scientists are now turning their attention to the subjective, the possibility of communication beyond words and sound waves. All of us know that we communicate on many levels, that we sense each other. We know that this “sense of one another” can be particularly profound between lovers in long-lasting relationships. In this new posture, try to develop your sexual psychic powers. Be open to feelings coming from your partner and send them back. It will take time, but you will see that telepathic sexual arousal is as “send-able” and “receivable” as any other emotion. You will begin to feel a telepathic turn-on. Psychasm is the sensation not only of your own conscious and emotional experiences, but of those of your partner as well.

This is what super marital sex is all about. The posture of the future can help you both learn to develop your own form of sending and receiving free of the sexual prescriptions. The posture of the future is really your posture, so don’t worry about “getting it right.” If it feels right to both of you, it’s right.

“The first time we rushed it,” said the wife. “We stacked the pillows, got naked, and tried it. It was-terrible. Then we took our time. We moved the wedges around, changed distance and angles several times until we found the right face-to-face sort of semisitting postures. The lighting helped, because we had never really seen each other like that, actually looking right at each other and our genitals. The telepathy worked. He got a drifty look on his face that drove me crazy. I was really turned on. His F spot—I mean, area—was right there on my area. We almost quivered together. It was like in the movie Cocoon when that man and woman are in the pool together and he says, ‘If this is foreplay, I’m a dead man.’ It was very much like that scene. We felt each other on every level.”

Her husband added, “Never, never in a million years would I have thought this posture was anything special. I can tell you now that it just cannot be described. We insert the penis sometimes, I ejaculate sometimes, we have orgasms, psychasms, breastasms, 1 tell you, we just merge. With the music and the light, it is just another world for us. If you would have told me that erection or insertion was not necessary weeks ago, I would have thought you were crazy. I see now that it’s not really the posture, it’s the whole system.”

Try the posture of the future. You cannot do it wrong, because the two of you are doing it, sharing it, changing it, learning it together. The posture of the future, the marriage of the future, will evolve from a new emphasis on intimacy and the integration of sexuality into the whole of the marital system.

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Sexual intercourse between men and women is constructive only within marriage. Courtship should include talking, kissing, cuddling, holding, sex play, mutual masturbation, and intense physical interaction, but not sexual intercourse. We should tell them so. Young adults would have to learn to energize the courtship sequence with feelings, thoughts, and touch rather than coitus. They would then select better partners for better sex that allows a total sexual system commitment.

It is pure myth to assume that practice with many different partners makes for good sex with a given partner. Sex is not like tennis. Practice does not make perfect in sex, it only leads to more practice. If we see sexual intercourse as the ultimate form of intimacy, it belongs in the ultimate committed relationship. If we see intercourse as some type of casual recreational activity, it belongs only in casual relationships and has little to do with bonding. I believe, and the thousand couples believed, that intercourse means much more than recreation, that it belongs in committed relationships. Open, more vulnerable courtship free of the “it” factor, the intercourse factor, will help us to find better partners for lasting super marriage and change courtship from a training ground for divorce to an opportunity for the learning of intimacy.

It is interesting to note that Masters and Johnson and other sex therapists almost always tell their couples in treatment to stop having intercourse, to become re-acquainted on deeper and broader personal levels before moving on to the intimacy of sexual intercourse. I suggest that we use this recommendation for our courtship patterns as well. A little preventive sex therapy couldn’t hurt.

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